Parenting and Attachment is dedicated to sharing information about attachment disorder. It’s common in various manifestations to orphaned children, particularly those who have spent time in orphanages before they were adopted. My mission is to reach out to other families who may be struggling to understand and cope with this mystery as my wife and I did with our 17-year-old daughter and only child, Casey. Unfortunately, we learned too late. This is explained below.
I’m not a mental health professional but a father searching for answers, and I don’t claim to have all the answers. This blog may not be the be all and end all to every answer about attachment disorders, but I want to share with my readers everything I’ve learned so that they have a launching point for their own searches as they seek help for their own children.
My motivation is personal. On a dark, blustery January morning in 2008, Casey, took the keys to our car, drove to the Golden Gate Bridge and jumped, disappearing into the frigid waters of San Francisco Bay. Her body was never recovered. Our precious Casey, the centerpiece of our lives, was gone forever.
She was born on May 3, 1990 in Giżycko, Poland, a town of 30,000 in Poland’s Mazurian Lake District, known as the “Summer Capital of Poland.” She was a preemie, likely an unplannedpregnancy. Her mother, Jadwiga, had two other children sharing a small rural home outside of town with her parents. Casey had a twin sister who was stillborn. Piecing together the fragments of her infancy, we believe that Casey went straight from the delivery room to an incubator to an orphanage in the nearby town of Mrągowo.
She was weak and sickly when we met her at the orphanage on a broiling hot day in July, 1991 – a 14 month old at the developmental level of a 6 month old. But under our care, her transformation was nothing less than phenomenal. Over the years, Casey developed into a beautiful, smart, popular young lady. But things weren’t perfect. I’ve just finished writing a book about my experience as Casey’s dad and my search for answers to her suicide – The Girl Behind The Door. I will keep you posted on it’s progress until it’s available for sale.
That’s where our story begins.
Stay tuned. There is much more to come.