You Don’t Look Adopted is a memoir by Anne Heffron about her experience as an adopted person. I think I’ve read or tried to read every book on adoption and the adoption experience from the point of view of the adoptee. Some of the adoption magazines sugarcoat adoption with pictures of happy families and stories of joy, and many adoptive families this is true. But for a great many adoption can mean a lifetime of pain, regardless of how much love, affection and privilege is offered.
You Don’t Look Adopted is a uniquely raw account of what it means to be adopted – the insecurities, attachment issues, identity crises and self-loathing from the trauma of separation from one’s birth parents.
This book is a vital read for any adopted person, adoptive parent or prospective adoptive parent seeking to better understand the mysteries and difficulties of what is a profoundly complex life experience.
On a side note, whereas it took me 3 years to write and bring my book to market, Anne wrote and published this work in a matter of months, a land speed record!
It is currently available only as an eBook on Kindle but look for a paperback copy soon.
Thursday June 9th from 7-8PM. I will be speaking at Friends For Survival, a bereavement group for suicide survivors, at North Highlands Community Center, 6040 Watt Ave, No Highlands, CA. just off I-80 just north of Sacramento.
Saturday June 11th from 7PM-8PM I’ll be speaking at Copperfield’s Books new store at 999 Grant Avenue in Novato.
PLEASE JOIN US, ESPECIALLY OUR SACRAMENTO FRIENDS!!
This coming Monday May 23rd at 7PM I’ll be speaking at Books Inc Palo Alto in the Town & Country Village at 855 El Camino Real.
PLEASE JOIN US!!
Tuesday May 17th from 10-11AM PST. I will be a guest panelist on KQED’s Forum Program/88.5 FM hosted by Michael Krasny.
Wednesday May 18th from 7PM-8PM I’ll be speaking at Books Inc in Alameda located at 1344 Park Street.
Monday May 23rd from 7PM-8PM I’ll be speaking at Books Inc. in Palo Alto located at the Town & Country Village in Palo Alto.
PLEASE JOIN US!!
STAY TUNED FOR MORE MEDIA AND SPEAKING EVENTS!
Pamela Karanova posted this very good piece on her blog, Adoptee In Recovery, where she features adoptees’ experience searching for their birth families. My teenage daughter Casey never showed any interest in her family from Poland, something I heard from other adopted teens. But as they got older, I learned that they were desperate to know, almost without exception.
Last night I gave my usual talk and book reading at the San Francisco Public Library while a video slide show of Casey’s pictures ran behind me. They taped it with production and editing quality that was astonishing. It looks like a TED talk, Charlie Rose interview or KQED production. I love they way they intersperse parts of the slide show with me talking.
Bravo SFPL! Thanks so much for this gift!
Here is the YouTube link. Note: please remember to back up the video to the beginning if it starts a bit later.
On Tuesday of this week I’ll be a featured guest on KWMR-FM/90.5, Point Reyes, CA., 89.9, Bolinas, 92.3, The Valley, on the local news show “Epicenter” at 5:00PM with Jim Fazackerley talking about The Girl Behind The Door.
On Thursday of this week at 6:30PM I’ll be speaking about The Girl Behind The Door at the San Francisco Public Library, Civic Center main branch at 100 Larkin St. in the Latino Room.
On Saturday at 11AM Mountain Time (10AM Pacific) I’ll be interviewed on “Adoption Perspectives” on KLTT-AM/670, Denver, CO.
PLEASE JOIN US IN PERSON, OVER THE AIR OR ONLINE!