You Don’t Look Adopted is a memoir by Anne Heffron about her experience as an adopted person. I think I’ve read or tried to read every book on adoption and the adoption experience from the point of view of the adoptee. Some of the adoption magazines sugarcoat adoption with pictures of happy families and stories of joy, and many adoptive families this is true. But for a great many adoption can mean a lifetime of pain, regardless of how much love, affection and privilege is offered.
You Don’t Look Adopted is a uniquely raw account of what it means to be adopted – the insecurities, attachment issues, identity crises and self-loathing from the trauma of separation from one’s birth parents.
This book is a vital read for any adopted person, adoptive parent or prospective adoptive parent seeking to better understand the mysteries and difficulties of what is a profoundly complex life experience.
On a side note, whereas it took me 3 years to write and bring my book to market, Anne wrote and published this work in a matter of months, a land speed record!
It is currently available only as an eBook on Kindle but look for a paperback copy soon.