The Dangers of “Crying It Out”, By Darcia Narvaez, Ph.D

baby-in-cribDarcia Narvaez, Ph.D is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Notre Dame. Her research explores questions of moral cognition, moral development and moral character education. She is also author or editor of four award winning books. Someone shared with me this essay with a catchy title about the dangers of letting babies “cry it out.” We learned this cardinal rule from numerous adoption specialists, but only after we’d done everything wrong.Dr. Narvaez’s essay doesn’t specifically address adoptees but the same principles apply, the notion that the baby needs to know that her needs will be met so that she has trust in her surroundings and caregivers. This runs counter to the prevailing “wisdom” that we’d grown with. Rushing to your crying baby was seen as spoiling; your baby had to learn to be self sufficient. Subsequent research has shown that this isn’t necessarily true.

Thank you Dr. Narvaez!

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