A friend recently turned me onto a very powerful adoption movie titled The Dark Matter Of Love. Filmed in a documentary style it chronicles the adoption of three children from a Russian orphanage by a couple in Wisconsin with a fourteen year old biological child. The three Russian children were five year old twins, Marcel and Vadim, and eleven year old Masha (not biologically related.)
What drew me to the story was the fact that the parents’ experience of integrating the children into their home was not in the slightest sugarcoated. The twin boys were chronically hyperactive whereas the girl (not biologically related) was quiet, withdrawn and virtually emotionless. Her expression rarely changed from the one on the movie poster. In addition, the adoptive couple had the good fortune of being consulted by Dr. Robert Marvin, a leading adoption researcher with the Mary J. Ainsworth Attachment Clinic. I also interviewed him for my book.
For anyone with Netflix you can stream it. A really heart-wrenching movie. I’d love to know how they turned out.